Although I don’t have relationship experience, sitting on the sidelines has proven many things to me.
I know that high school is a time for me to find myself, which I’m doing, but it seems that not everyone thinks that way when he or she is in a relationship. For the first couple months of high school relationships, the girl and guy try to be as sweet and perfect as possible, but they can’t keep it up. Eventually the girl tries to change the guy by saying “I don’t want you talking to that girl or that girl or your cousin” or “You can’t hang out with the guys tonight because Saturdays are for you and me.”
Guys, don’t be confused; these females are sly, and before you know it, you’re with the wrong one. If a girl will flirt with you while you and/or she is dating someone, she will do it with some other guy while you date her. From what I’ve noticed, guys are not fond of sharing.
Ladies, why would you date a guy you don’t trust? If you think he’s flirting with another girl, get over it because the girl he’s talking to is probably flirting back. Commitment is attractive. Since this female’s boyfriend is a committed man, he looks trustworthy, so other women flock to him.
When a woman is into a guy enough, she will claim him. Sometimes you can just tell, and other times she is secretive about it. Even if she doesn’t say it, you can see it in her body language that a man is her property. I always feel so sorry for these guys. They don’t know what’s coming.
People aren’t property. If I dated a man there is no way I would take him away from the rest of the world. I’m no maverick, but too much of someone is a bad thing. I get sick of people really easily. A class period or two with the same person five times a week is hitting the boundary line if I haven’t gotten used to you. There are few people in my life I could spend every day with, and my family is a majority of them.
Being in a controlling relationship is pointless. Why must I try to make the situation work when it should work naturally? I think the whole “We can work this out” is just a challenge that people like. Why can’t people see that they’re trying too hard and getting nowhere? You can’t change a person to be who you want them to be because it will make them miserable. If these two get married, it will lead to divorce because trying to force the relationship is exhausting, and eventually someone is going to give up.
Restrictions in a relationship are also not fair. Why should some guy have a say in who I talk to or where I am? How are more people not detectives? There is a constant interrogation in the dating world. If some guy wants to know every little detail in my life, I couldn’t stay with him because if he wanted to control every little thing I’d do, I might not get permission to breathe.
Something that totally blows my mind is that after a couple breaks up, one or the other will continue to order the other around. Why do they think they broke up? Why can’t they use their brain and figure out that they are obsessed not in love.
Another thing: texting is NOT dating. You are only getting to know confident-not-in-person guy/girl. Some people are absolutely hilarious in a text, some are straightforward like me with no LOL or :), but there are very few who are actually the same in person. So when these couples are finally together in person, they are just too awkward. They just don’t seem to know how to talk with their mouths. You can’t live a relationship behind a screen, which is why long distance relationships rarely work.
The most awkward part about high school dating is the “talking” stage. The guy or girl walks to every class with the other just to see if he or she really wants to date that person, and as soon as that huge step is taken, everybody knows that they’re practically together. WHY?? They’re talking like everybody else does, and it’s not even a relationship yet. Just go out on a date, and if sparks fly, continue to date. If not, just move on. Plus, going on a date should not be a huge commitment. You are just finding out who you like, not getting married or engaged.
Don’t get me wrong, if I’d be flattered to be asked on a date then any girl would, too. It’s a reason for a girl to get dressed up, receive compliments, and get butterflies, which are quite beautiful to ladies. It’s good practice for us to get nervous and go on dates. The nerves during the date build character. We just don’t need to consider a few dates a life-long commitment.
Furthermore in high school nobody has become him or herself yet, so breakups shouldn’t be a big deal. A person’s taste is always changing, plus the heartache makes us who we will become–stronger people.
Relationships are complicated and weird, but I find it entertaining to watch couples in high school because they will probably broken up by tomorrow.